Are You Helping or Enabling?

When I was in high school, I had very little in the way of moral grounding, something I’m not proud of but which is key for understanding the way I acted in the story I’m about to tell you. This story takes place during my senior year, when I was all the way gone into...

Parents, It’s Not Your Fault

Let’s take a moment to take a moment to talk about a famous scene in the film Good Will Hunting (no, not the one where Matt Damon slaps the phone number on the window of the bar and asks, “How you like them apples?”). It’s a scene that takes place toward the end...

No More Help

Every so often a mother sends me something so good I have to share it. This letter is one of those somethings. It’s written three years ago from a mother to her drug addicted son. The mother told me she wrote it the day she chose to stop enabling. She told me how her...

New Book Announcement!

I’m so excited to make this BIG announcement! It’s been a long time coming, but today is finally the day! It’s with great anticipation that I announce today that my new book, “Finding Hope, A Field Guide for Families Affected by Addiction” is set to release on August...

The Best Thing My Mom Ever Did

My good friend Floyd works down at Rob’s Ranch, a treatment center for men struggling with chemical dependency. He’s the health and nutrition supervisor and makes a point to spend time with many of the families each weekend as they arrive for visitation. In...

Chasing The Unattainable (A Guest Post About Codependency)

I spent the last five years chasing someone who was unattainable. I can say for certain five years, but in all honesty, it was probably more like my whole life. Chasing someone outside myself to complete me, hold me up, care for me and show me that I mattered. I knew...